Who are you giving your power to?

Think of a time when you had a clear goal or intention that you were committed to accomplishing . . . maybe a job you wanted, a certain result in a relationship, an amount of money you wanted to create – anything.  Do you have it in mind?

What result did you produce?  Did you accomplish exactly what you wanted?  If you did, what did the path look like to get there?  Was it exactly what you thought it would be or did you have the opportunity to “adapt and overcome?”

If you didn’t accomplish what you wanted, why not?

Here’s the story that I generally make up when my goal all of a sudden changes or isn’t accomplished – “Can you believe that person didn’t see things my way?”  “I asked for support and everyone just walked away”  “The boss just wouldn’t listen to me” . . . and 1000’s more over the last 40 years of my life!

Reflecting this morning on the areas of my life that I am not where I want to be, I reached a new level of awareness around how much of my power I give to other people in my life.  For example, I wrote my first book at the end of 2010/beginning of 2011.  The book was in a very rough draft form and my friends kept asking when it was going to be published.  My story?  “I don’t know where to find an editor”  “I don’t know anything about getting it published”  “I am not sure if there is a market for the book” . . . Really, Kristina?  So now my goal of being a published author & impacting the lives of 1000’s is on hold because God didn’t drop an editor and/or publisher at my doorstep?

Funny thing is, God ended up dropping an editor on my doorstep and thank goodness I recognized the gift!  Now my manuscript was at the editor & I was still being asked the question – when is your book going to be published?  “I am waiting the editor” was my response . . . Seriously?  Talk about giving away all of my power!!!

So now my answer is simple – I am committed to having my book published on or before July 4, 2011.

Here’s the thing – what if the editor doesn’t work out?  What if I have challenges getting my book cover designed?  What if there are challenges in any one of the details that are involved in publishing a book?

Do I give up my power to the circumstances & people or do I stand in my power and, no matter what, do I keep my commitment?

What about you?

What areas of life are you giving up your power and allowing people and circumstances to control your results?

Not sure how to break the cycle and take your power back?

Start being someone different & watch your results change as well!


About Kristina Arias - Life Coach

Kristina is a Life Coach who moved to Colorado Springs, CO in June 2012 and living in Arizona for 29 years. She enjoys the variety of outdoor activities that are a short drive away - hiking, camping, boating and more. Kristina has raised 2 sons, who both still live in the Phoenix-Metro Area. Over the last 20 years, Kristina had a successful career in Real Estate, shifting from Property Management to Residential Real Estate Sales to owning her own team and brokerage. During this journey, Kristina was introduced to the coaching world and became a certified Business Coach within the Keller Williams coaching system. With a sincere passion for empowering others to achieve their dreams, Kristina is a graduate of Klemmer & Associates Leadership Seminars, volunteers within this same program supporting new students & teens in their personal growth journey, and is in the process of becoming a Certified Professional Coach through the International Coaching Academy. With 1000's of hours of coaching experience, Kristina has developed a unique coaching style with a focus on her clients' self-discovery of their goals & dreams and what is holding them back from accomplishing them.
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2 Responses to Who are you giving your power to?

  1. Jackie says:

    Thanks Kristina for the insight and reminder to Own Your Own Power!
    This reminder came at perfect timing! Keep up your great insights as they do empower others!

  2. Sean says:

    It is so easy to give up your power. You are so right. Many times we don’t even know we are doing it. Seems to show up a lot with me. Thank you Kristina for the reminder to be aware.

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