This last week I volunteered as a staff member at one of my favorite leadership & personal growth seminars. I have been part of this specific seminar 14 times now in the last 22 months and every one is always different – different students, different volunteers and me being in a different space in my life all contribute to me creating new value for myself every time. Its like reading a book or watching a movie over & over again . . . I seem to read or hear something new every time and find myself asking myself how I missed it the last time!
Well, this seminar was not different. I heard something “new” and it has completely changed my perspective on things. Within this specific organization, there are 5 levels of seminars that can be attended and they all build one upon the other. Throughout all 5 seminars, mention is made about “story” and how it is important to leave “story” out and focus on results. At least that is what I have previously heard . . .
What I heard differently this last week came as a result of one of the students asking a specific question of the facilitator. The question was something like this: “I have always been taught to share my story as it is builds value when enrolling people in my business. Yet here you continue to tell us to leave our story behind. Please clarify.” The answer blew me away and I will do my best to communicate it effectively here.
“Whenever a person feels the need to share his or her story in order to justify, defend or rationalize a choice he or she has made, then this is just a story. When a person is sharing his or her experience in life from a place of giving back or building value for another, this is a testimony.”
My question for myself now is am I defending myself or am I coming from contribution? It is amazing how much I can leave out when I stop justifying, rationalizing and defending and how much value can be built from simply sharing my heart . . . . .