I am 30 days out of an 8-day intense personal growth seminar – the Hoffman Institute – and believe that I am finally starting to come back to earth. In the past, I have been described by people close to me as “compartmentalized” – meaning that I separate the different areas of my life and the people in these areas from each other. Fair to say that this description resonated with me and with the awareness, I have made a conscious effort to combine my worlds . . . there is a Seinfeld episode that comes to mind, for those fans out there – the one where George’s universes collide. At a certain level, that is how I have felt – that if all of my different universes were to meet then it would be a miniature nuclear explosion with all of the emotional and relation fall out that comes with it. Amazingly, none of this has happened yet . . .
Going through the Process at Hoffman, a theory was introduced that completely aligned with this compartmentalization – only on an internal level. Hoffman theorizes that we are made up of a Quadrinity – Spirit, Intellect, Emotion and Body – and that we learn to separate these 4 aspects of ourselves over time in order to survive and cope. Just as we can learn to create healthy boundaries, communication, etc in our external world, Hoffman theorizes that we can do the same internally between our 4 quadrants. Don’t worry – we aren’t talking multiple personalities, just simply different aspects of our complete personality. If you are open to exploring this theory – keep reading . . .
The gift that keeps on giving for me? Tools that actually align these 4 aspects and teach them to “communicate” with each other and actually make requests of each other and how to seek guidance from the Creator if there is confusion or a disagreement between any of the 4 quadrants. With this new ability to communicate internally, I have discovered a level of peace and alignment that I do not remember ever having experienced in my 41 years of life. And the more internal harmony I create, the more peace shows up in my external life – in relationship, in ease of accomplishing my goals, in doors of opportunity that appear before me, in setting boundaries, in communicating more effectively, and more!
Reflecting back, I am reminded of Gary Keller telling us in our masterminds that “balance” does not actually exist . . . only “counterbalance” . . . applying my new awareness of the different internal quadrants, I find this to be incredibly accurate. And in creating open and honest internal communication and agreements – I have been able to create and maintain a peaceful counter-balance over the last month . . . and with the support and tools provided through the process and our community, I believe it is possible to continue my journey with peace and harmony – inside and out!!