Every Moment is a Choice . . .

Many of us come from a belief system or mind set that involves a “have to” attitude – I have to go to work, I have to work out, I have to save money, I have to, I have to, I have to . . . .

Truth is, aside from basic survival needs of eating, breathing, sleeping, there is nothing that we “have” to do.  We make choices throughout our lives based on what the consequences are.  Did you just go to “consequences” being a negative term?  See, consequences are simply results of our actions and choices.  Consequences aren’t positive or negative – they are just results.  Some results move us forward and some results hold us back.  Some results create pain and some results create pleasure.  Some results create bondage and some results create freedom.

What results are your choices creating in your life?  How long are you going to be a victim to what you “have to” do in your daily life?  When will you step in to being responsible and begin making choices from a “get to” or “choose to” mind set rather than a “have to” mind set?  Who are you giving your power to every day?

When the costs outweigh the benefits – will you move?  will you make different choices?

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Transformation vs Change

Most of us get into coaching, personal growth and other areas of our lives from a desire to change – change our results, change how we feel, change other people, etc.

Here’s my question – do you want change (temporary alteration) or do you want transformation (permanent alteration)?

Webster’s dictionary defines the word Transform as:

a : to change in composition or structure
b : to change the outward form or appearance of
c : to change in character or condition 

Webster’s dictionary defines the word Change as:

a : to make different in some particular 
b : to make radically different 
c : to give a different position, course, or direction to
 

Rather than focusing on the precise definitions, lets look at what transformation is in the world by looking at a caterpillar’s journey to becoming a butterfly.  Within the cocoon, the caterpillar (pupa) transforms its body parts from legs & body to that of a smaller body and beautiful wings.  Once this physical transformation is complete, the new creature emerges from the cocoon as a beautiful butterfly – never to be the same again!

This metamorphosis is permanent – the butterfly will never again walk the earth in its previous form as a caterpillar . . . a true example of TRANSFORMATION!

So which result are you looking for in your life?  Change that may lead back to the same you or a true transformation from within you that is irreversible?

Taking yourself on through personal growth and life coaching is one mechanism for producing transformation from within . . . when are you ready to start???

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Readers are Leaders – Updated 5/3/2011

Updated 5/26/2011 –

Thanks to great conversation with an even greater friend and some wonderful coaching clients, the list has grown as more and more books have come to mind and been referred through these conversations & coaching sessions  . . . .  stay tuned for more!

I know, I know – what a corny little cliche, right?  As someone who grew up reading (no TV was the rule in the house growing up – so books were my main form of entertainment), I had this belief system that everyone loved to read the way I do.  As I entered the world of coaching, I rapidly discovered that there aren’t a lot of people out there who are passionate about reading and gaining knowledge and discovering new information through this particular methodology.

So, to reach those among us who are passionate about reading – or even books on audio – I am using this post in my blog to begin a recommended reading list.  I will add to this as I come across more great material and re-post so that it stays up to date for all of my followers & fans.

These are in no particular order and range from Christian/Faith based books to personal growth & self-development to business building.

Enjoy!!!

  • 360 Degree Leader – John Maxwell
  • Anatomy of Peace – the Arbinger Institute
  • Battlefield of the Mind – Joyce Meyer
  • Becoming a Millionaire God’s Way – C. Thomas Anderson
  • Beyond the Darkness – Cynthia A Kubetin & James Mallory, MD
  • The Bible – God
  • Captivating – John & Stasi Eldredge
  • The Compassionate Samurai – Brian Klemmer
  • A Course in Weight Loss – Marianne Williamson
  • The Dip – Seth Godin
  • Failing Forward – John Maxwell
  • Fierce Conversations – Susan Scott
  • Good to Great – Jim Collins
  • The Greatest Salesman in the World – Og Mandino
  • Gung Ho! – Ken Blanchard & Sheldon Bowles
  • How to Win Friends and Influence People – Dale Carnegie
  • If How To’s Were Enough – Brian Klemmer
  • Law of Attraction – Michael J Losier
  • Leadership & Self Deception – the Arbinger Institute
  • The Love Dare – Alex & Stephen Kendrick
  • Making Your Marriage a Love Story – Dr C Thomas Anderson & Maureen Anderson
  • Mere Christianity – CS Lewis
  • Millionaire Real Estate Agent – Gary Keller
  • My Fight With God – He Won & So Did I – Brian Klemmer
  • Out of Bondage – Tim Mather
  • The Purpose Driven Life – Rick Warren
  • QBQ! – John G Miller
  • Raving Rans – Ken Blanchard & Sheldon Bowles
  • The Richest Man in Babylon – George S Clason
  • The Screwtape Letters – CS Lewis
  • The Search for Significance – Robert McGee
  • The Secret – Rhonda Byrne
  • The Shack – William P Young
  • Shift – Gary Keller
  • Sparkling Gems From the Greek – Rick Renner
  • The Strangest Secret – Earl Nightengale
  • Strengths Based Leadership – Tom Rath & Barry Conchie
  • Success Principles – Jack Canfield
  • Think and Grow Rich – Napoleon Hill
  • The Tongue – a Creative Force – Charles Capps
  • Tuesdays with Morrie – Mitch Albom
  • Your Best Life Now – Joel Osteen
  • Wild at Heart – John Eldredge
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Hello world!

What an awesome title for my first blog post!  This is the default subject line and yet it is so profound for me personally as I transition from owning my own Real Estate Team and Brokerage into my true life’s passion of Life Coaching.

So here is a little bit about me and the purpose of my blog.  I have spent the last 20 years immersed in the real estate industry – from managing apartment complexes to being an individual real estate agent to owning my own real estate team and brokerage.  Through this journey, I was introduced to the world of coaching through Keller Williams and their in-house coaching program.  I completed their MAPS coaching training program and spent hours being coached and coaching others over the last 5 years.

In the last couple years, I found that I had a passion for empowering others – not just in making their next real estate decision, but in discovering what they wanted their life to look like and then creating it.  It seemed so natural for me – rather than interviewing someone about what they wanted their next home to look like, I started asking them what they wanted their life to look like.  Simple, right?  It amazed me – people had an easier time describing their next home, the furniture, the paint color and the landscaping then telling me what their hopes and dreams were and what those looked like.

In this, I had a startling realization – I couldn’t answer this question any better than my real estate clients!!  How could I ask them to dream and create if I wasn’t able to do what I was asking them to do?  So, I took myself on and started by asking myself this question – Kristina, if you could design your life like you designed your home, what would it look like?  The sad truth?  Two years ago, I couldn’t answer this question and so began my journey to find the answers.

The journey has taken many turns and certainly didn’t end up looking anything like I thought it would.  Go figure, right?  Starting with an external search, I read books, attended training, asked other people what they thought, sought spiritual advice through leadership at church, and more.  On this search, I discovered something amazing – the answers weren’t “out there” – they were within me the entire time!  Who knew it could be so easy?  Except, finding the answers within was even more challenging for me than searching the world for my answers.  I discovered that I was lacking a self-awareness around who I wanted to be and the life I wanted to live.  I could answer the question “What don’t you want?” but I had absolutely no clue how to answer the “What do you want?”  And if I did have an answer, it was very general – I want to be happy, I want a healthy relationship, I want to be financially independent, I want to be in shape, I want to be successful . . . sounds great, right?

Here’s the problem – what does happiness look like?  what is a healthy relationship?  what is financial independence?  what does in shape look like?  what does success mean?  The answer?  Something different to everyone of us – depending on our life experience and our own personal goals and dreams.

So, here on my blog, I will be sharing the awareness that I have gained through finding my answers to these questions and more.  What I won’t be sharing?  My answers to these questions.  Why wouldn’t I share my answers?  One of my mentors over the years shared this insight with me – We all have answers, and they may even be great answers.  However, mine are MY answers and they might work for you for a little while.  When they stop working for you, you have the opportunity to blame me.  If you take the time to find your own answers, then you get to take ownership of the results, just as I have taken ownership of mine.

Thank you for sharing this journey of self-discovery and awareness with me.  If you are interested in becoming a coaching client or have questions or feedback, please reach out and post on my blog or shoot me an email.

Let the adventure begin . . . .

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